Word #2 on this subject: THEMES. I am in love with the idea of throwing a party w/ a color theme. Use the bridal colors, or an offshoot of the brides wedding color choices for your party theme. I have visions of a purple themed affair w/ purple Cosmos, purple wrapped presents, cupcakes w/ purple icing....you get the picture. Don't be afraid to mention this on the invitation. This makes the theme that much more involved for the party guests.
Word #1 on this subject: GAMES. Normally I am completely against games of any kind at adult functions. It ends up being a little too forced, a little too much, and sometimes puts people on the spot who aren't comfortable being on the spot. That said, done correctly & in moderation a shower game (or maybe 2, but that's a big maybe) can be successful & even entertaining for the bride & her guests. My personal thought on the game route, is instead of a game per say, I like to think of them as optional activities w/ some sort of overall merit, (i.e. a functional result, be it a laugh, an item for the bride, etc.) Recipe Box: Send a recipe card(s) w/ your bridal shower invitation along w/ instructions for the guests asking them to share a favorite recipe or recipes w/ the bride to be put in a communal recipe box that will be presented to her at the shower. OPTIONAL: Put all of the collected recipes in a drawing, randomly pick a recipe card, & give that guest a prize, if your into giving prizes. Thank Yous: Pre-buy Thank You notes for the bride & have each guest fill out an envelope w/ their name & mailing address. The bride will then have pre-addressed envelopes for her Thank Yous for the shower guests. OPTIONAL: In a similar vein as the recipe box idea, have a drawing from the envelopes, pick one & offer that guest a prize of some sort. Scrapbook Page: Buy a scrapbook w/ insertable pages & provide supplies on each guests table to fashion their own scrap book page to be presented to the bride. Explain to guests that the goal is to provide personalized pages that the bride can then just insert her photos, etc into. Essentially each guest is making a template to be included in an overall book. (It's always good to provide a sample, as well, to give guests an idea of regular photo sizes, placement, etc.) Include pre-sized pages that will fit into the insertable book, wedding themed paper & stickers, photo templates, pinking & assorted art cutting scissors, regular scissors, glue, etc.) This will provide the bride pre-made scrapbook pages ready for her to insert wedding photos & memorabilia. Each guest sign their creations!
Never Have I Ever: A variation on the drinking game, toned down for appropriateness, if you so choose. Everyone got 10 objects (M&Ms or similar). If you're going the drinking route, everyone gets a cocktail. Go round the circle, and say something that you have done that you think no one else has (ex: I've been to Australia, I've gotten a mud bath, etc.). If you HAVE done that thing, you got to keep your M&Ms (or your drink). If you haven't, you throw one in the pot (or take a swill from your cocktail). The rule is that your statement could not be person-specific (ie: I've kissed Kevin). This one is fun as people try to one up each other on the outrageous things they've done. The winner is the one w/ the most M&Ms left or the majority of their cocktail.
Nearly any activity or game can be suited to a bridal shower. The key to them being less than horrible is to think of things that you, the bride, & guests would enjoy doing anyway. The level of appropriateness most likely depends upon the guests & the ages of those guests. (i.e. I can't see playing Never Have I Ever w/ great grandma & my 3 year old cousins, but at an adult shower this might go off w/out a hitch.) Bottom line, consider your crowd, and consider what you would find enjoyable. Don't get sucked into adding awful games, just because you feel like it is quid pro quo for a shower. Make your event unique & thoughtful & people will have a good time w/ or with out the standard shower games!
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